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| Female Sexual Problems
of women's sexual problems are not purely physiological, not solely of the physical body. So, in most cases, avoid drugs and
surgery. Unfortunately, financial interests have tried to
classify sexual problems as pathological, as a disease. It was called hysteria in the 19th century.
Today it is called FSD (female sexual dysfunction) or FSAD (female sexual
arousal disorder), which Big Pharma tries to treat with drugs (e.g. Intrinsa) or surgery (e.g. Orgasmatron).
But sexual dysfunction is not a disease! Women are being victimised. Sex is
being medicalised - and we need to demedicalise society!
The highly recommended
documentary Orgasm Inc shows
this in a funny and sobering way (I watched it on Netflix). Although libido can
be lowered by drugs (e.g. anti-depressants, contraceptive pill) and surgery (e.g.
hysterectomy), sexual desire is not merely hormonal. It is very psychological, and
it depends greatly on social context (e.g. imagine you are on a relaxing
tropical island holiday).
I repeat, women's sexual problems are not usually physiological.
"Sometimes I wonder if men and women really suit
each other. Perhaps they should live next door and just visit now and then."
- Relationship Problems.
- Stress. For help with stress, see wikiHow articles like this.
- Overwork, especially drudgery-type
work, like housework and caring for children all day (no village). The woman
becomes physically, emotionally and mentally tired. Sex is no longer important.
Women do around three times more housework than men, so gender inequality is an
- Body Image. 80% of women have
body image issues. So, they become very self-conscious and can't let go. This
is created by the likes of media, porn, businesses that want to sell stuff. Whereas
men may suffer from pride, women can fall prey to vanity. But authentic attractiveness
is a feeling from within. Can you love yourself as you are?
- Childhood Programming. Perhaps as a child
you were taught that sex is dirty, impure, of the Devil.
- Childhood Sexual Abuse.
- Anatomical Ignorance.
Ignorance of women
of their own anatomy and erotic physiology. Some women don't even know
their clitoris is. These women can be all ages. Now combine this with
that 70% of women need direct clitoral stimulation to climax/orgasm.
to educate themselves about their anatomy and sexual arousal cycle,
etc. Also extremely important is daily Pelvic Floor/Kegel
Exercises - see below.
- Outer Game Ignorance. Ignorance of the
man for the need to go through her full sexual response cycle, to know the
mating ritual. He needs to kindle the woman.
- Inner Game. Man is also
ignorant of the need for Inner Game, the
need for presence, appreciation and integrity.
- Incest Taboo 'The theory of The Incest Taboo is simple: After
a couple sets up housekeeping, childhood experiences are recreated and the mate
appears more and more like the parent, primary caretaker, or sibling we once
lived with. As this unconscious projection gets stronger, we are less able to
get turned on by our mate because of the cultural taboo against having sex with
one of your family members... the Taboo is running in the
background ALL THE TIME with you and your live-in honey bunny.' (Jim
Benson, relationship & sex expert, posted 28 November 2016, accessed 29 November 2016)
He goes on to suggest ways to deal with this. His suggestion of
'distance and individuation' to recreate sexual polarity seems useful -
and why separate
bedrooms could help passion and sleep quality (see here, here, here & here; also see here, here).
Pelvic Floor / Kegel Exercises
Having said all that there is one key physical body exercise
that enhances female sexual health. Pelvic floor exercises
or Kegel exercises!
You need to be doing these daily (men too
actually). These need to be taught to all young people to enhance
Sources and Resources
- Orgasm Inc
(2009 documentary) - especially ±55 minutes onwards.
- O.M. Aïvanhov teaches about spirituality and sex. See here, here, here.
- Porn Sex Vs Real Sex (Megan Barnett, HuffPost, 2018).
- Me and my breasts: 100 women reveal all (The Guardian, 2014).
- Me and my vulva: 100 women reveal all (The Guardian, 2019).
- Lily Allen: 'Women masturbating in a
relationship isn't wrong' (BBC, 2020).
- 30 Remarkable Health Benefits of Sex (Megan, Couples Candy, 2021) [Quite a few of the benefits are female-specific].
- Apps promised to revolutionize dating. But for women they’re mostly terrible (Nancy Jo Sales, The Guardian, 2021)
[She believes online dating has made single women overall less happy,
less likely to find a long-term partner, and more at risk of sexual
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